Hello, my name is Nicole Beane, LCSW-C and I am a psychotherapist working with adults and teens in Gaithersburg, MD. With over 25 years of experience, supporting children, teens, and adults, I've come to understand how every developmental stage of life leaves its mark on who we are today.
Though I now work exclusively with adults and teenagers, my years of working with all ages helps me see the threads that connects our past and present, and how early experiences, family patterns, and our personal relationships continue to shape our stories. This broader perspective allows me to help adults, not only understand themselves more deeply, but also navigate the relationships with the people that they care about, including partners, children, parents and others. My work with teens leaves me hopeful, as I see young people gain coping skills and trust in their ability to get through even life’s hardest moments.
My work is grounded in curiosity, deep compassion, and the belief that it’s never too late to grow in understanding and connection. My hope is that when you are with me you feel seen, heard and deserving of a good life.
You can bring your deepest emotional struggles to me, and together we’ll hold them with care. It can feel frightening to face them on your own, but you don’t have to. We will face them together, one step at a time and at whatever pace feels comfortable to you.
Warmly,
Nicole Beane, LCSW-C
“Our wounds are often the opening into the best and most beautiful parts of us”
About Me & What I Do:
I absolutely love what I do! I grew up in Montgomery County, MD so I understand first hand the stressful environment and the pressures to “succeed” living so close to the nation’s capitol.
I think some of us are born healers, carrying both light and a few tender wounds of our own. Maybe that's what allows me to truly understand the ache in others. It's a privilege to help my clients manage their emotional pain. To walk beside people as they rediscover the strength that lies within them, the strength that has always been there.
I am married and have two young adult children, a son and a daughter. Beyond my work, I love learning through reading about therapy techniques and theories, taking long walks with my bestie, good conversations with dear friends, savoring anything chocolate, my morning coffee and anytime I get to spend time with my kids, specifically being on the beach at the eastern shore in the summer.
My previous work experience includes helping patients at The Washington Hospital Center Adult Inpatient Psychiatric Unit, guiding emotionally dysregulated teens as a school therapist at The Children’s Guild, and assisting children and families in crisis as a therapist at Children's National Medical Center Psychiatric Day Treatment Program. I am extremely proud to have worked in Private Practice over the last 20 years as a psychotherapist to children, teenagers, adults & families, in some of the most difficult times of their lives. I have extensive experience working alongside some of the best psychiatrists, therapists, attorneys, physicians, nurses and coaches in the nation. I believe that people don’t exist in a vacuum. If it feels supportive to a client’s goals, I may ask if they want to include important individuals in our therapy sessions to assist in a client’s healing process.
I am a Client Centered Therapist which means I believe that clients are the experts of their own lives and that my role is to provide undivided attention and empathy along with a safe, supportive relationship that helps you access your own insight, strengths, and capacity for change.
I utilize techniques from Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Narrative Therapy and Psychodynamic Therapy, including gently examining attachment styles and how we unconsciously pick friends and lovers based on our relationships with early caregivers.
I strongly believe that Mindfulness Techniques can help you slow down, notice your thoughts and feelings, and respond with awareness instead of reaction. Deep breathing, grounding techniques, guided meditations, and moving your body to stay present in the moment, can all help with overwhelm and panic. I am also certified in the Emotional Freedom Technique (tapping) which uses the body and mind to release emotional distress.
Together We Can Work On:
-Social anxiety, generalized anxiety, panic, and mood disorders, including bipolar disorder and depression.
-Managing the pressures of high school and college, executive functioning skills, employment issues, marital, family and friendship challenges, raising children in the digital age, becoming an “empty nester”, worry about money and retirement.
- Generational trauma, bad childhood experiences, and other difficult life events are often hard to talk about without the expertise and safety of a good therapist. Political uncertainty and a deep sense of unease about meaning and purpose in life can be difficult to carry.
These are just some of the obstacles that together, we can find a way to make more manageable for you. You are not alone. You are human in a messy world.
Until we meet, be gentle with yourself!
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Young adults are between the ages of 18 -30. Although a lot of people assume that young adults are supposed to be carefree and enjoying life, it can be a very difficult transition into adulthood. Young adults can often feel misunderstood and judged by their parents who grew up in a different era. At times, young adults are uncertain about college choices, career paths, and life goals. I have worked with hundreds of young adults to help them gain the knowledge and coping skills to ease the transition from high school or college into the “real world” (PS: it’s never as scary as they think it is). They have the strength inside of them, they just dont realize it yet!
Navigating romantic relationships and friendships can be very difficult when you are young and inexperienced. The pressures of social media to look perfect is hard for both young men and young women. Women's self-esteem can be challenged by comparing themselves to others on social media. Being a young adult can feel very lonely (and the dating apps don't seem to help). If they are struggling with social anxiety or depression, it can feel painfully difficult to connect with others, make new friends, or put themselves out there in the dating world.
Unmanaged or undiagnosed ADHD can make it difficult in college and in new job situations. Undiagnosed autism in women can leave them feeling rejected and wishing others understood why they are so sensitive. Some women with ADHD have pre menstrual dysphoric disorder (PMDD) which is a serious mood disorder that is hormone related.
I can help identify the correct diagnosis and treatment modalities both for ADHD and autism. If I need assistance, I know of many good psychologists who administer tests to determine an exact diagnosis and rule others out.
I enjoy teaching executive functioning skills to help people succeed with daily life (“let’s put that in your phone with an alarm to remind you daily of that task”). Finally, I have built a long list of resources for young adults to help with coping skills, job placements, and understanding the strengths and challenges of their unique personality/temperament.
Needing to find "your people" is so important for young adults. Everyone wants to feel like they belong. When people lack connection to others with similar interests and values… this can lead to feelings of hopelessness. Because young adults are still gaining life experience, it can be hard for them to trust that pain and uncertainty won't last forever, and that things can improve with time. This is where I come in to help!
This is also a time when some young people find themselves sliding into marijuana addiction and/or binge drinking There is a lot of shame and denial involved in addiction. This can lead to isolation and potentially becoming unsafe like driving under the influence, ingesting too much of a dangerous drug or suicidal ideations. I have helped many young adults get to a place where they feel ready to acknowledge they have a problem, and finally accept the substance treatment that they need. I have a lot of good resources once this happens to help them get and stay sober.
Sometimes it takes building a strong relationship with clients first, and then when trust is established, I am able to help.
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Midlife adults are generally 30 to 59 year-olds. This stage of life can feel completely chaotic. Balancing work, relationships with friends and partners, parenting through the different stages of a child's development and managing aging parents, can leave a person exhausted and feeling unfulfilled. Your own needs often take a backseat to your child's.
Is your son going to make friends in middle school or is he going to get shunned for not being an “athlete”? Is your daughter going to get into the college that she has been dreaming about? These can weigh heavily on a parent’s mind and feel all consuming.
As a parent, it's natural to wonder if your child is “maturing” the way they should or if you're doing the right things to support them. When things don't go as planned, that uncertainty often turns into guilt or worry.
PARENTING THROUGH THE YEARS:
Becoming a new parent is grueling with the sleepless nights and no free time at all. You begin to feel irritable and angry with your partner more than ever before. Postpartum depression /anxiety can feel like being overwhelmed with sadness and fear when you are expected to feel only joy. Sometimes you worry that other mothers have it “all together” and that something is fundamentally wrong with you for not feeling excited and enthusiastic about your new role. I so clearly remember my son crying nonstop for the first three months of his life. I thought I was losing my mind!
Let me help you like I have helped many other women. I promise it will get better with the right treatment. I feel fortunate to know and collaborate with doctors that can help with female hormones and medications if appropriate.
Babies and toddlers may not be able to talk back yet, but they communicate loudly in other ways through crying, sleep difficulties, separation anxiety, and even aggression towards others. While many of these behaviors are a normal part of development and often fade with time, young children still need gentle and consistent guidance, and age-appropriate tools to help them learn self-control. A dear friend once shared her experience with her three year-old son, whose speech was delayed. Her pediatrician explained that much of his anger came from not yet having the words to express himself, but reassured her that setting clear, appropriate limits when he hurt others was still essential. She later reflected that this guidance helped her do what was best for her son with confidence, free from guilt or second guessing.
When children are in elementary school and middle school, friendship issues and social skills deficits can become apparent for the first time and can feel heartbreaking for a parent. ADHD and/or learning disabilities are often (but not always for inattentive girls) noted by teachers for further evaluation. Girls can present very differently than boys with ADHD and often goes “unnoticed” because she is not disruptive to the class.
Middle school can be an especially difficult time, as children work to find their place and friendships can shift quickly and unexpectedly. I have a wealth of knowledge, resources and coping tools to help you through this time.
The teen years can be challenging with marijuana and drinking and getting through tough social/academic situations in high school. Not being sure if you are being “too strict” or “too lenient” is hard when so many others have different rules for their teens. Feeling like your child is changing and that you don’t “recognize” them anymore can feel devastating. Often parents blame themselves or each other for their child's behavior. I can help you become a team with your partner to help your teenager, rather than feeling helpless and fighting.
Becoming an empty nester can feel like you’ve lost an important role in your life. Will they be ok? Will I be ok? Now what do I do with my free time?
Mid life is also a stage when many people find themselves going through a divorce or reevaluating their relationships. Some people find themselves in affairs. This can be extremely painful and destabilizing whether you have been cheated on or a long term relationship ends for other reasons. Dealing with money issues, your children’s well being, and your own mental health during a divorce, is more than most people can or should handle alone. I’d be honored to help you find the path that feels right for you. Sometimes well meaning friends and family just cannot be as unbiased as a therapist can.
Lastly, women enter perimenopause in their late 30’s and 40’s with no information on ways to handle the emotional/physical turmoil that this can cause. I can help you to understand how that new fear of driving, vertigo, dry eyes and low motivation can all be hormone related and refer you to excellent practitioners in the field of female hormones. I’ve done all the research so you don’t have to (still going through it myself)! It feels so good to be able to help other women during this turbulent time.
Lastly, planning for retirement and anxiety around having enough money to retire someday can be tough. Unplanned or early retirement or job changes can also make this stage of life very challenging when so many people rely on you.
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Affair ambivalence is the mixture of emotions that come with being involved in an affair. Some of the feelings are confusion, guilt, excitement, sadness, and uncertainty about what to do next. You feel stuck and both staying and leaving feel impossible. Maybe your affair partner promised you that things were over with their spouse and you believed them. You never imagined that you find yourself in this situation, and fear judgement by others if they found out. You are constantly hiding your relationship and wishing your life looked different. In therapy, we explore these feelings with compassion and clarity, helping you to understand your needs and move forward in a way that feels true to you.
As your therapist, my role is to provide a safe and nonjudgmental environment where you can speak freely and honestly, without fear of judgment. I have several years experience working closely with couple’s therapists on how to support people through this “secret” relationship that can feel agonizing yet somewhat addictive.
Divorce can be painful for the entire family, especially when the decision was not mutual or when you are trying to separate from someone who has difficulty letting go. During these times, having a knowledgeable and compassionate professional to talk with is essential. I have worked alongside experienced couples therapists and divorce coaches to help individuals navigate this difficult transition in a way that prioritizes emotional safety, healing and integrity.
Throughout the process, my clients gain greater self understanding and clarity about what happened in the relationship, allowing them to move forward with strength, intention and self compassion.
Having worked with children in the past, I also have the unique experience in understanding how children respond to divorce, and can help you to make it as easy as possible for them to understand and still feel loved and seen.
In addition, I can help you to communicate with a co-parent in a way that is healthy for you and your children.
I can work help support you and give you tools when dealing with an ex-partner who has erratic, mean or destructive tendencies.
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I love teenagers (and I've had two of my own)! These "almost adults" are learning how to navigate a complex and often overwhelming world, and many feel relieved to finally have the space, support, and undivided attention of a warm, caring therapist. I have worked with adolescence for many years and feel grateful to be recognized as a recommended clinician by the pediatricians at Potomac Pediatrics in Rockville MD.
I frequently work with high school students who are struggling with mood concerns, anxiety, and ADHD. Growing up in the age of social media means there is little escape from pressure. Pressure to look a certain way, keep up with trends, earn "likes ", stand out, and succeed academically. In Montgomery County Public Schools as well as local private schools, expectations around grades and achievement can feel especially intense and, at times, paralyzing. When you add an afterschool activities, community service requirements, limited downtime to unwind, and the lack of sleep that many teen bodies desperately need, it's easy to see how a teenager can become emotionally overloaded and burned out. As parents, we want the best for our children, but feel helpless at times to know what to do for them or how to talk to them. Teens are usually the hardest on their parents because they know that their parents love them and are not going to leave them. A neutral therapist can be just the person to help a teen because the teen learns it is a safe space to say whatever is on their mind.
Teens with ADHD often face additional challenges with executive functioning and impulsivity, which can sometimes lead to risky decision-making. I enjoy helping teens learn how to pause, slow down, and take a break before making big decisions. These skills take practice, but meaningful change is absolutely possible.
Friendships and romantic relationships can also feel especially complicated during adolescence. Learning how to manage conflict, gain perspective, and set healthy boundaries takes time, guidance, and support. I begin by building a safe, trusting relationship with your teen and from there, we work together to strengthen emotional resilience, problem-solving, skills, and healthy boundaries.
I enjoy teaching teenagers executive functioning skills, which are mental skills that help us plan, organize, manage time, regulating emotions, and follow through on tasks. Some teens naturally develop these skills as they mature and others need help with ‘“tips and tricks” that help your teen get through their school day, effectively, learn how exercise helps with focus and mood, and different ways to organize and prioritize, work and fun.
Lastly, vaping nicotine and marijuana as well as binge drinking on the weekends, is a huge problem with teens today. I can help help motivate teens to rethink some of these dangerous activities as well as help parents on what to do if they find their teen is abusing substances.
Services for Teens and Adults
Testimonials
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"Nicole Beane is amazing. I highly recommend her! She is warm and inviting, which makes it easy for honest and real therapy to occur. Her calm and reassuring demeanor makes discussing difficult or stressful situations and topics easier. She is a consummate professional."
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"Mrs. Beane has been a tremendous help to our family. My college aged daughter sees her frequently and helps her in making big decisions. She also helped her with her first "break-up" when I felt so helpless because she didn't want to tell me everything."
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"Every year for the past two years I walk over for a therapy session with the lovely Nicole Beane.I have had therapists in the past, but truly none as caring or devoted as Nicole. She's not only a calming presence but finds a way to connect and improve the most complicated and sensitive parts of you."
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"Nicole has helped me with my marriage and my adult children. She is always available when I need her and her compassion for people really shines through. I look forward to meeting with her every 2 weeks and leave her with fresh ideas and the feeling that things are going to be ok."
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"I have been in a relationship outside my marriage and was so worried about being judged as a "homewrecker". My friends became annoyed with me when I tried to talk to them about him. I had no one to go to. Nicole has been so helpful in allowing me to come to my own decisions for what is best for my life by gently inquiring about MY needs and what I want my life to look like. I finally feel understood but also like I'm ready to take charge of my life and look for what I deserve."
FAQs
What services do you offer?
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Hello! I offer in person and telehealth therapy for individual adults and their families. I have been a therapist for 25 years and offer therapy for adults of all ages.
I also specialize in helping people who are going through divorce or who are ambivalent about their relationship or feel like they are in a relationship that they cannot talk about with others. I offer compassion, my expertise, and absolutely no judgment.
How do I get started?
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Getting started is simple. Reach out through our contact form or call. I’ll walk you through the next steps and answer any questions along the way.
I have a 15 minute no charge consultation to make sure we are good fit! I absolutely love what I do and really look forward to talking to you!
What makes you different?
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If you read my testimonials, you'll sense the knowledge and compassion that guides my work. I believe we are not meant to move through life alone. I think you will find my expertise, years working in the field, and testimonials speak for themselves. I hold deep respect for the trust my clients place in me as they share their lives and stories. None of us are perfect. We are all human. We all make mistakes, stumble, and fall short at times. Healing begins when we meet ourselves with the same compassion we so freely offer others. I know it's easier said than done. Let me help you find the way back to yourself, but with new knowledge and tools.
I've always loved Prince's words: "Dearly beloved, we are gathered here today to get through this thing called life'". I have it hanging in my kitchen! This song lyric captures my life's calling. Walking alongside others and helping them get through ‘this thing called life’.
Do you take insurance & what are your fees?
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I am not in network with any insurance companies. However, each month I will provide you with a super bill that you can send to your insurance company for reimbursement of some sort. I would recommend calling your insurance company and asking if you have out-of-network benefits for mental health. If so, ask if you have a deductible that you have to meet before you can get reimbursed or if you can start getting reimbursed right away. Also ask what percentage they will reimburse (full or partial) reimbursement. My 45 minute individual therapy sessions are $235. My 60 minute individual therapy and family therapy sessions are $250. My one time initial intake that is 60 minutes or more is $270.
I've learned that therapy can be profoundly life-changing. Even when the upfront costs feel difficult for some, it's an investment that pays off because without good mental health, life can feel unmanageable and unfulfilling.
Nicole Beane Psychotherapy
11904 Darnestown Rd Suite F Gaithersburg, MD 20878
Hours
In person therapy & telehealth therapy
by appointment only
discreet location for your privacy
Phone
(240) 994.1357

